Project 365

Welcome! This is my own 365 project of creating at least one post per day about the stuff that I learnt, achieved, and found, the stuff that made me happy, or the new thing I did every single day.

The project was started on 21 February 2010. It has stopped for few times but I am determined to continue!

This project is dedicated to myself. I want to feel grateful for every single thing I have. I want to be thankful for my own life. I just want to feel that I have enough.

Paris

Paris

Visiting Paris is a dream to many people. And I’m lucky enough to be able to go there twice. It’s a pretty city with many gardens scattered everywhere. What I like about Paris is that, although it’s such a huge and crowded city, it’s a great place to just hang out, do a picnic, walk along the Seine River, or just sit somewhere. It’s surprisingly not polluted (compared to Jakarta!). And I enjoyed it so much when I was there.

Anyway, this is a picture I found posted on somebody else’s tumblr. This is a picture of Palais du Louvre (Louvre Palace) where the Louvre Museum is located. It’s usually packed with tourists!!! Probably this picture was taken early in the morning. Stunning, as usual.

Why Pretend?

In the silence between your heartbeat bides a summons. Do you hear it? Name it if you must, or leave it forever nameless, but why pretend it is not there?

Jalal ad-Din Rumi

Indonesia Night

I was invited to a rare cultural event called Indonesia Night (which was quite rare in Eindhoven; as most cultural events happened in Den Haag, Rotterdam, Utrecht, or Amsterdam). The event was held for the purpose of introducing the Indonesian culture to some Dutch students (majoring in chemical engineering) who were gonna do a study tour to some parts of Indonesia.

The event was started with a very interesting presentation by Prof. Nas from Universiteit Leiden about the symbols of many places in Indonesia. He did an extensive research about this topic in many cities, particularly in Jakarta, Jogjakarta, Denpasar, Bukittinggi, and Banda Aceh.

Symbols in Place by Prof. Nas

Prof. Nas described Jakarta’s 4 tiered symbolism. The city was first built during the Dutch colonialism time and was centered in what was now Kota (or city center) which was filled with European architectures. During the Old Order (Soekarno’s era), many huge monuments were built, including Monas, West Irian Liberation Statue, and Dirgantara Monument. According to Prof. Nas, Soekarno, who was an architect himself, tried to “neutralized” the city by building these monuments. There were many Dutch or European buildings during that time and Soekarno wanted to display the Indonesian presence or nationalism symbols among these buildings. The New Order era (Soeharto’s) also saw the creation of monuments, one of them was the Sacred Pancasila Monument. In the 1990’s, Jakarta underwent a number of major construction projects; as a result, many high rise buildings started to rise up.

Jakarta

Moving on from Jakarta to Denpasar, the Professor also explained how the traditional Balinese house was constructed. The house was largely consists of a collection of individual separated structures, including the family temple, sleeping pavilion, kitchen, and many more. These structures were located inside a high-walled compound and were organized in such a way that complied to the Tri Angga concept which the Balinese believed. The concept described the three parts: the high (which referred to the sacred mountains or hills), the middle (land), and the low (sea). In terms of the Balinese house, the high referred to the temple, the middle referred to pavilions where they lived, and the sea referred to the kitchen and so on. Prof. Nas even mentioned that the Balinese slept with their head pointing to the direction of the sacred mountain 🙂 This was an interesting concept that I didn’t know about!

After the presentation from an expert, two students gave a presentation about Indonesia. One was a friend of mine, Qonita, who represented Indonesian students who lived in the Netherlands. And the other was a Dutch student who had the chance to live in Indonesia. Both of them gave very interesting and entertaining presentations which I enjoyed very much!

Qonita's Presentation

Qonita's Presentation

Qonita's Presentation

These are the summary of the presentations that they both presented:

  • One thing that really stands out about Indonesian people is that we’re really FRIENDLY! Our door is literally opened to anyone. Guests can come unannounced and we’re always ready and happy to receive them to our house. We’re very generous and wants to show our warm hospitality to our guests. When the guests come or are invited to our house, we expect them to eat (and by that we mean HEAVY MEALS are awaited to be served). This is rather different with Dutch. Making appointments are necessary if you want to visit a Dutch friend in his or her house. Visiting Dutch people during dinner time is a big NO-NO. This is considered a family time for them and they are for certain have no foods left for you; because they cook only for the number of people present on the table 🙂 (whilst Indonesians tend to cook more foods, in case somebody else visits). When you visit a Dutch house, expect light foods, coffee or tea, and no more. Of course, nowadays Dutch people interact with many people from different cultures, so some of them behave differently 🙂
  • Dutch people are very OPEN. They just don’t hesitate to say what’s inside their heads without considering the feeling of others. On the other hand, many Indonesians, especially the “true” Javanese, aren’t very open. They’re too polite so they try not to hurt other people’s feelings. As a result, they’re not able to say what they really have in mind. They say “yes”, although they’re quite hesitant about it (but they’re hesitant to say “no”).
  • Dutch are surprisingly huge. They’re the tallest people in the world. Even the women are very tall! They are white too and as Qonita said: “have pink skin”. LOL. All the western people, including Dutch, love tanned skin, while the Asians, including the Indonesians, would prefer a fair skin (except me, I’m so glad to have this skin color!). The Dutch presenter was actually surprised to find that there was a whitening lotion in Indonesia! 😛 People were obsessed to get white and they would praise her white skin color. In contrast, whitening lotion is nowhere to be found in the Netherlands. There’s a lotion that makes your body tanned or glowing though. Haha!

I was so glad I came to this event! I didn’t expect that it was gonna be this interesting! Knowing other people’s perspectives about your own country was always fascinating. I learnt many things and I had so much fun! The poco-poco dance turned out to be really great and many people took part too 😉

A Joy is Found

When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.

Jalal ad-Din Rumi

Testimonials

When I was sorting out some papers, I found some feedback sheets written by my classmates about me. These sheets were given during a Communication Skills course and each person had to present some feedbacks (strong and weak points) about each of their classmates. Reading these made me smile again. Some of the points surprised me and made me question: “Really? Do I really have those qualities?” Some of them motivated me to improve myself. While some allowed me to be introspective about myself.

So, let me quote some of the feedbacks about me given by my classmates:

You are enthusiastic. You cope well with people. You are expressive, you listen and motivate. You make people want to listen to you. I like the way you elaborate things. It really inspires.

You are observant. You like paying attention to detail without compromising simplicity and creativity. You easily point out things that are missing and can bring in new ideas.

I like your inquiring character. You are doubting facts and not people.

I get corrupted by your lively presence and creative ideas.

I would describe you as a little miss sunshine, very positive and engaged and slightly chaotic. I’m thinking here about telling ideas.

I think you are very flexible.

You brought inspired [sic] ideas to our group.

I find you to be a well-organized person. This includes your planning, your speech (knowing what to say) and your approach to things in general. This is a point that really stands out for you.

🙂

Girl’s Night

Jessie and Ari stayed over at my place for a night. We talked about many things; especially about our adorable guys 😛 and relationships in general. Jessie seemed to be too tired and she slept earlier than us; while Ari and I kept talking until Fajr prayer. The good thing was, the Fajr prayer was at 3.15am so I didn’t need to worry about missing my prayer 😉

Anyway, we talked about relationships last night. One thing I noticed about my past relationships was that I tend to get bored easily. I’m not be able to keep the sparkles and chemistry strong enough to keep me going. I’m not able to prevent the flame from perishing. It’s sad, I know. And it’s something that I’ve been trying to find for the answer or the solution for some time now. It irritates me. Could it be because I haven’t find the right guy yet? Or could it be because of myself?!?

I’m still trying to find the answer.

Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is celebrated today in the Netherlands. And although Indonesians celebrate it on 22 Dec, I just want to post this great song titled Bunda (Mother) by an Indonesian singer Melly Goeslaw; dedicated to all the great mothers in the world, including my beloved Mama. I miss you, Ma!

Dinner Gathering

It’s been 5 months since we had the last dinner gathering at my house just before the winter break. Since then, nobody was able to organize a gathering and I wasn’t able to do it at my house anymore as the landlord asked me to use the attic for the tenants only.

I’ve also been quite busy socializing with “other groups of people”. I think I’ve been searching for comforts and trying to get away from my loneliness. I’m tired of always complaining how lonely I am, so I decided to get myself out of my comfort zone and explore for some more friends who can make me belong and connected. Except for one or two guys that I’m close with here, I have a hard time socializing with many of the guys here (and they’re the majority!).

So I’m glad that I’ve found some girlfriends that I’m comfortable with. Jessie and Ari are the two girlfriends I’ve been spending my time with for the past few weeks. We’re dubbed the “three musketeers” as we’re almost always together! 🙂 We’ve had endless fun talks and I always enjoy them! I’ve also been quite close with some friends in Leiden. But as the transport cost between Eindhoven and Leiden is quite expensive, we don’t see each other quite often.

Anyhow… back to the gathering! So this time Qonit and Reyhan (the new happy couple!) were the host. They cooked fried rice, kalasan fried chicken, and vegetarian semur. They also served us delicious appetizers, dumplings-like which I really really loved! I gotta find it in a Chinese store soon! Not to mention there were different types of drinks and desserts that we — the guests — brought. Delicious foods and fun gathering!

The Girls!

— The girl’s corner 😉

The Guys!

— The guy’s corner 😉

The Stars

Indeed, We have adorned the nearest heaven with an adornment of stars and as protection against every rebellious devil. [So] they may not listen to the exalted assembly [of angels] and are pelted from every side. Repelled; and for them is a constant punishment. Except one who snatches [some words] by theft, but they are pursued by a burning flame, piercing [in brightness].

Sesungguhnya Kami telah menghias langit yang terdekat dengan hiasan, yaitu bintang-bintang, dan telah memeliharanya (sebenar-benarnya) dari setiap syaitan yang sangat durhaka. Syaitan-syaitan itu tidak dapat mendengar-dengarkan (pembicaraan) para malaikat dan mereka dilempari dari segala penjuru. Untuk mengusir mereka dan bagi mereka siksaan yang kekal. Akan tetapi barangsiapa (di antara mereka) yang mencuri-curi (pembicaraan); maka ia dikejar oleh suluh api yang cemerlang.

The stars were created not only to make the sky beautiful, but also to protect the evil spirits (syaitan) from listening to the conversation of the angels.

Desires

Whatever posessions and objects of its desires
the lower self may obtain,
it hangs on to them,
refusing to let them go out of greed for more,
or out of fear of poverty and need

Jalal ad-Din Rumi